When I was wa-a-a-y younger and indoctrinated with the bullshit propaganda so prominent in this country, I thought the Emma Lazarus poem was for ALL of us. It wasn't until I got older and knew more about my people, that I realized it was written particularly for Jewish immigrants to this country. But cool, it seemed to speak to THE PROMISE of what America could become. Then as I watched and paid more attention as I grew older, I realized, not only wasn't it NOT for us, but America didn't really mean it for plenty of other people -- including Jews! I can't wait to watch Ken Burns' documentary, "U.S. and the Holocaust" which airs this Fall on PBS to flesh this all out in my own mind:

https://www.pbs.org/kenburns/us-and-the-holocaust/about-the-film

I'm married to a 3rd generation, Italian-American. We met at the Defense Language Institute in Monterey, CA -- he in Spanish, me in Russian. We got married there and that's where my oldest was born. Like your father, his parents, and a lot of his family in Upstate NY lost their shit! The first time we went there after we were married (my mother had our son), his father said, "She cannot stay in my house! His oldest sister (who's here visiting us this week which is why I'm late in responding) said, "Dad, if they can't stay with you, they sure as hell can stay with me!" -- which we did. I will forever love her and her kids madly for that decision. My husband told his Dad, "If you can't accept my wife and son, then you can't have me either," and they didn't speak for a very long time (he was their Baby, the youngest of the four).

By the time I had my second son, they'd come around tremendously -- so much so, he and his wife came down to MD where we were stationed and babysat the boys while we went to the Navy Day Ball where Montel Williams was the entertainment! By the time he died, we were all family and he loved me up always. It worked out, because the husband stood for the family we'd created and what HE believed in.

I say all this to say, you never know what may happen -- as long as you stand for the family you've created!